Marriage:
Probably one of the most controversial topics in relationship matters; even
though there are laws and regulations guiding it in most religions, it is still
being misinterpreted and atimes even misused due to differences in individual
perspectives concerning the topic and also one’s level of understanding…
Who should I marry? When should I
marry? Probably two of some of the most daunting
questions every single may have a hard time answering…Because, It’s a choice of
a lifetime with little or no chances of going back…Though humans are created as
beings of choice; they cannot choose
their parents, families, backgrounds, country or race, before they are born;
but however, the only choice they can make is the choice of a life partner-who
to marry and spend the rest of their lives with…A choice which will affect
their lives forever, either positively or negatively, depending on the outcome
of one’s choice…
It will be
observed that the most pressures and influences on one’s decisions come when
that period to choose comes…Limitless advices, suggestions and ideas from all
angles; yet, only the carrier will know the weight of the cross when the time
comes…Then many make the mistake of taking decisions based on popular opinion or
what is generally acceptable, forgetting the fact that what works for one may
not work for all…
Truth remains
that, Marriage was instituted by God, man’s creator when He made Eve for Adam, for
the major aim of companionship first, then reproduction, and His Word He also gave
as man’s manual for a lasting marriage…But, quite unfortunate that God’s order
is most times disregarded or even disordered by man for his own selfish ambition
and will…
Marriage is definitely
beyond the joining together of two love birds; one man who is of age and one woman
who is of age, to have fun and have children…The foundation upon which a
marriage is built matters the most…Of course, Love is always seen as the
foundation, but many fail to actually understand what love really means; Love
based only on what is seen or a feeling can definitely not build a lasting
marriage becos what is seen or felt may not remain forever…
It’s not wise
to understand marriage in marriage when one can choose to understand marriage
before marriage…Its said “experience is the best teacher” but really that
should not apply in marriage when one can learn from the experience of others…becos
there is no “I will do it better next time!” in this case…It is a one-time
decision whose effects last a life-time…
It’s also
often said that marriage is not for boys but men, not for girls but women; but
maturity in marriage is beyond just age, there is a place for emotional,
psychological and even most importantly spiritual readiness…If one wishes for
the best partner, then one must first prepare oneself to be the best partner
too…In reality,”Who you are is who you will attract” and that is true in
marriage…The idea that “opposites attract and likes repel” is only when trivial
traits are put into consideration…
Readiness for
marriage is not determined by age, achievements, or what people around think or
suggest…You can’t ‘think’ you are ready, you should ‘know’ you are ready; not
based on anything else but on a proper understanding of what marriage entails
and what God’s Word teaches as the guides for a lasting one…Many may not even
be able to properly define a “Wife” or a “Husband”; yet, they are in a hurry to
enter the cage for life with little or
no chances of deliverance…
Indeed! Ready to Marry and Ready for Marriage; are not the same...and Marriageable and Marry-able; are not also the same!
Indeed! Ready to Marry and Ready for Marriage; are not the same...and Marriageable and Marry-able; are not also the same!
To be
continued…
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