Marriage is
not a necessary evil; it was instituted by God for a companionship that would
last a life-time; He said "It is not good for a man to be alone" and
"He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtains favour from the
Lord"...So marriage was meant to be good...Therefore, Any evils seen in
marriages today is often becos of a product of a wrong foundation or a
misunderstanding and misinterpretation of God's order concerning marriage; and
of course there is a place for spiritual attacks...
Most 'big'
issues in marriage are mostly born out of so called 'small' issues ignored
before marriage; When one cannot differentiate between what is a foundation, a pillar,
a roof or a mere decoration; considering marriage as a building...
Man, of his
own free will only, is incapable of making the right judgements all the time;
becos d usual tendency is to decide based on what is seen physically, probably
after a period of careful observation and in d midst of wise counsellors; but
still that cannot guarantee d right results always...
Though most
relationships would often begin first with a sight but the worst error one can
make is to go into marriage based on d same as d foundation...To d man who
married d princess of d land, yet can't have a good night sleep; he now
understands dat 'beauty is vain' and To d woman married to d wealthiest man in
d land, yet shares him with uncountable other women, she now understands dat
'comfort is not happiness'...Though he definitely should marry d beauty of his
'eyes' and she should also marry a provider of d comfort of her 'body'; but
those cannot be foundations...
Fact is,
there is no recipe for cooking up d right partner because actually, nobody fully
knows anybody; except one prepares to keep making recipes for the ever-changing
human nature, which would become one task too many...Tomorrow is not in the
hands of any human, therefore no one can predict what anyone would become, notwithstanding
the length of time invested in studying an individual or the amount of
preparation for the safety of d future...Truth! No one has the power to
permanently change anybody’s spirit; only the Holy Spirit has that power...
This is the
beginning of failure, “When God’s order is put out of order” or when every
other individual’s views have a place but God’s view has no place or when every
other advices are considered except God’s advice...How would the institution of
marriage succeed when the ideas of its founder and chancellor are least
respected and most ignored?
The true
foundation of a marriage is not physical, though can be expressed in
physical...It’s called “The Love of God”... A man still carrying in his spirit,
the nature of the fallen man can not truly express God’s kind of Love, no
matter how nice he may seem; the devil is still his master and he does not
understand the Love of God...A man who claims to love God must also seek to
know and keep to God’s commands concerning marriage...Any other Love built
outside the foundation of true Love for God with good proofs, is only a
time-bomb waiting for the right time to explode...Same reason why it’s so hard
to understand or explain why, they were the best couples in courtship, the ‘love’
and passion burning unquenchable, happiness written all over on wedding day;
yet, just a year after ; the same woman he virtually begged to marry becomes a
punching bag or the same man she thought she would die without becomes her
greatest regret and the day they said “I do” becomes their worst nightmare; The
‘feelings’ of Love and Passion no were to be found anymore...
Truth is “What
is after them is beyond them unknowingly to them”...The True Love of God was
the missing foundation; the most important spiritual quality was considered
least while every other physical qualities were properly considered...A
man/woman who truly loves God will say or do whatever he/she does first to please
God before considering what pleases a partner; their actions are not based on
what or who is right or wrong but on a simple self-question “Will God be happy
with me for this?”...Spirituality is definitely beyond church attendance; the actual
measure of one’s true love for God is outside the walls of a church and the eyes
of d pastor; it’s expressed in everyday living, in words and in actions
everywhere...
Truth! There
is no truly nice guy/lady outside the love of God...
You don’t just
‘wish’ for the right partner, you “Pray for” and “Prepare yourself” also to be
the right partner; becos though you can’t change anyone, you can decide to
change yourself and attract only the right people to you...
The Love of
God is first! Never begin without putting the most important foundation in
proper consideration first!
To be
continued...
I pray we
are encouraged today, Pls Share this with a friend and also read our previous
days’ thoughts here http://3realwheels.blogspot.com
Nice day
all! #GodIsStillInCharge
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