Thoughts for Today - "Marriage 101 (Part 4)"

Lots have been discussed in previous parts...Pls read them for better clarity...
Another major challenge faced by singles comes a question.."Who is d right partner God has made for me or How do I know God's choice for me?"...Unfortunately, many resort to family, friends, fortune-tellers or even some prophet to get answers...not totally wrong, but none of those can guarantee choosing d right partner or a lasting marriage...
Here's d usual mistake...God does not find a partner for anyone!...He said "He that findeth..." and just as He only brought Eve to Adam; Adam did d finding when he said "This is now the bone..."
God does 'not' choose a partner for anyone...He only gives "instructions/guidelines" for finding d best for a lasting union(an example: One should not be "unequally yoked with an unbeliever" neither with a 'so called' believer without a 'proven' Love for God)...It may be an excercise in ignorance waiting to hear God's voice directly, in a vision or a dream about picking d right partner, which He hardly does becos in His Word are all d directions one needs...
So actually praying for God to help one find or choose a partner could be a waste if done ignorantly...One can only be a 'passionate' God-pleaser first, den can pray for God's help not to choose wrongly which God would never even allow for any of His 'true' child; becos its His responsibility to shield them from evil devices and He will always order their steps...However, everyone bears d consequences of their 'own' choices...
Another mistake;...The widely accepted idea dat there is one fixed partner God has specialy created for each one which one must locate and marry...This is often d misconception when one only considers d issue of 'compatibility' physically alone...
Fact is; for every 'believer', there is only 'one' kind of human 'spirit' God-made, dat would be compatible with theirs and dat spirit can be in many bodies in different places; so we actualy can find the same 'inward' real persons in different bodies with just different physical 'outward' appearances just as we can find different people having d same behaviour/character...
That answers many questions like;  Why d Bible allows, if one decides like Paul not to marry and yet won't render his God-made wife somewhere single-for-life too; or Why d Bible allows Christian widows/widowers to remarry and yet He won't create an emergency partner for them neither will they marry someone else's God-made partner; or most especially, Why many who never prayed for d right partner before marriage and probably choose wrongly and yet after knowing God, they have d best home and may even becom ministers of God (because the Holy Spirit, d only One who has d power to Change humans 'spirits' has turned them to d right partners, without need for separation or change of body)...
Therefore, it would be wrong to believe that God has made one fixed partner for one; when considered by physical qualities only...
Truth is "Everyone has 'many' spiritually-compatible life-partners somewhere though allowed to marry only one at once"...
Many issues of 'irrecoverable' heart-breaks and do or die affairs in relationships-if well considered, is often when human 'feelings' are 'allowed' to becloud one's sense of reasoning or making compatibility tests using physical terms only and often, disregard for God's commands....
The root of most problems is..."When many 'choose' to be self-pleasers and men-pleasers, rather than God-pleasers"...Life is all about Choices!
Pls choose with d 'right understanding' while you 'Watch and Pray'!!!

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